Nollywood actress Toyin Alausa - 'I am not crazy about marriage'

On marriage: I cannot say that I do not think about marriage but I have attained a certain level of maturity. Marriage is not what one can rush into and you do not force it. Because of our culture there are so many things and I see too many broken marriages. One of it is not being fully prepared before going into it. And that is the reason I want to be fulfilled as a spinster by impacting on my generation and being satisfied with myself before getting involved with somebody else. For me I am not crazy about marriage, if it comes, fine. I have a friend and it is defined, because we are mature people, we are friends and there is no strings attached.



On her child being one of the factors holding her back: I must confess, I do not have issues with men. I like them and they like me too. But I have made some grievous mistakes in the past and I try to be reasonable. I have a son who at his age right now needs monitoring, a best friend and undivided attention. At least until he is mature enough for him to take decision on his own. I can then probably invite a man into my world to take over. Because I do not want any form of competition between my son and any man. It is not a factor; I just want to dedicate this time of my life to him.



On dropout: I am flattered, but that is the reason I promised myself that I have to go back to school. When I tell people that I am a drop out, there is this look that I get. In order to make myself proud, I need to go back and get my degree, which will also help in some of the things I am working on. I do not want to bring an idea out and something from nowhere will steal it because I am not educated. I am also a good listener; I pick words and go to the dictionary to look them up. I read papers, listen to news, read novels and anything educative. Getting an education does not necessarily mean that I intend to also work in an office, because I can tell you that I am not cut out for office jobs.



On caucuses in the movie industry: I really can’t say that this is the reason I have not belonged to any of them but I know that I am not a clique kind of person. I cannot really be in a group of people or camp, and not be flexible with the other camp. I want a situation where I can work for any set of people or group without getting in the way of the other. I think being in a caucus will limit me, and can cause rivalry too, which I do not need for my career. I am saying this because it has robbed me of a contract before and I will not let it rob me again. I started doing soaps with Wale Adenuga, and I went to AK Media, but I found that if there is a role for me, I will be told that because I already have with the other, I cannot have that one too. I don’t want all that again, and that is why I want to be free, to be able to work with anybody that is competent to work with.



On movie production: We cannot all be producers. We cannot all be directors, and make-up artistes. I guess everyone should be able to find where they fit in and can then work effortlessly. Producing a movie is not easy, except you have made up your mind to go into it with all you have. I have friends who produce. I have been on set with actors who direct, act and produce. For me, I don’t have a problem with that. It’s a matter of choice but I would rather want to give money for someone to produce for me while I act, than for me to produce and act.



Culled from The Nation

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